I never, hear me NEVER, wore open-toed shoes. Then I met my husband, who for some strange reason likes painted toe nails and seeing them peek out from a shoe. It would take a lot of persuading on his part, but eventually I would come around. I never understood the attraction of wearing open toed shoes. I mean who wants to look and, possibly, smell feet. GROSS!! I, also, didn’t realize the shoe styles I was missing out on, either. I was happy keeping my little toes hidden from the world. I guess my problem was worst than I thought, because I rarely went barefoot, even in my own house. Things have changed, since I have discovered the wonders of a good pedicure and how hot a hugely pregnant woman can get during the height of a New Orleans summer. So I jumped into the world of naked toes, which meant that I needed to get my feet in some decent condition, which wasn’t tough since I worn socks and tennis shoes for most of my life, or at least something that people wouldn’t grimace at. Now, pedicures have become a monthly indulgence for me, as well as finding and buying the many styles of shoes that have been opened up to me. I wonder how the hubs feels about all this, now. Doesn’t matter he has opened the door and I have gladly stepped right into it.
For my daughter she gets the daddy pedicure, which involved the cutting of the nails and a slather of her choice of polish. She doesn’t get her fingernails done until she can stop sucking on them. I can’t bare the thought of her eating polish. Apparently, children remember trauma from their newborn years since neither of my children will allow me to cut their nails for fear of my hacking away at their skin. Hey, you try cutting something the size of a tic-tac on a squirming noodle. So, I shouldn’t have been surprised when Amber overheard me confirming my pedicure appointment for Monday morning and asked if she could get one, too. I guess Daddy’s salon isn’t cutting it for this modern day girl. My gut reaction was to tell her that I had waited over 30 years to get my first pedicure and when she reached that point in her life she was more than welcomed to get herself one.
I see my pedicures as finally getting the carrot at the end of the stick. When we can afford them, I get them, but once money gets tight it is one of the first things to go. It is a luxury. An adult luxury. It is my one chance to get a foot massage and attention, lasting more than 3 seconds, without any strings attached. As I sat there all alone in the salon (a privelege afforded to those that are awake and willing at 9am on a Monday), watching the lady work on my feet, I wonder would I be okay with having another person’s 6 year old sitting next to me during my special time? And the answer is no, which means I won’t afflicted my child, no matter how well behaved I believe her to be, on others there trying to relax. I mean the salon asks that we turn off our cell phones for the benefit of others, wouldn’t that included a chatty 6 year old?
I, also, had visions of producing some Super Sweet Sixteen spawn that stomped and yelled at me because she didn’t get her million dollar party and the exact color BMW that she wanted. Not that that was ever in the cards for Amber, but when has that ever stopped a kid from pouting and whining when they didn’t get something that they wanted. I am sure this is just my over active imagination at work, during a time when I had nothing else to think about, but could something like this spawn more demands for expensive and traditionally reserved adult activites from the school aged set? Who knows?
Another factor is that my pedicures are not cheap, or, at least, I don’t think so. I spend $55 (including tip), which is why they are a once a month thing. Could I justify spending that much on my 6 year old, who could possibly not want all that it would entail? Sometimes I can’t contain myself when the lady is sanding my feet and she hits my tickle spot, I can only imagine what Amber would do. Besides, aren’t these things that only the mega rich and pagent moms do for their kids?
I am not saying that I have written off ever getting a pedicure with my daughter, but it won’t be until she can be more appreciative and understand it is a luxury and not a must have. Something we have been trying to explain to Amber as she gets the gimmes whenever we walk into a store. I am, also, not saying that any child under the age of 12 years old will turn into a Prada-BMW-Champagne-diamond demanding teenager if she gets an occasional manicure or pedicure. I just don’t think it is a road I want to travel with my daughter. I understand she wants to be like mommy with her Coach bags, pedicures and more than enough black shoes, but she needs to understand that I didn’t come out of the womb getting these things. I had to marry into them. (/sarcasm)


























